The Dallas Mavericks won the NBA National Championship last night!! It has been an exciting series to watch. So well deserved and the team's first time to win!!
Yesterday at 3pm I met my friend Debbie for coffee at Einstein Bagels. We had a lovely talk about what's been going on with me (mostly) and also catching up on her life. We have played Mah Jongg together for about 6 years now, but this was the first time just the two of us got together. It was nice to talk to her because she has been a single mom for many years. The coffee that late in the afternoon kept me up all night though!! I barely slept and I have a lot to do today. Tomorrow morning is my court hearing before the judge for "temporary orders". I am nervous about it. I've never been in front of a judge before and my attorney told me not to bring up the Chapter 13 no matter what. That almost guarantees that I will bring it up!! lol
So my soon to be ex and I had a nice chat yesterday. I am not giving names right away as I think it will be easier for me to put my thoughts down more freely if I am somewhat anonymous. For ease of typing I am going to call him my ex even though the divorce is in it's beginning stages. He left 10 days ago and has been telling the girls that he will be home for a visit next weekend which is Father's Day weekend. Understandably, they have been feeling extremely uneasy about that, but haven't wanted get him upset. My oldest is down right mad at her dad after finding out what kind of person he really is. You see, he has a severe truth issue and a severe responsibility issue. He has put us thru bankruptcy not once, but twice. He mismanaged our business so badly that we had to discontinue it, he took my daughters $75 thousand inheritance, had my car repossessed, and oh yeah, our house is about to fall into foreclosure. Those are just the main financial problems I am talking about. This man has been touting the praises of financial responsibility for years and constantly preaches to the girls about how much of a fiscal conservative he is. My blame in this whole farce is that I have been keeping his secret for years. I think for many reasons, but the main reason has always been that I never wanted the girls to know what kind of dad they really had. I guess now it's too late, they are finding out daily and not too happy.
The girls and I talked about his impending visit and they seemed very relieved that I would talk to him. Also, I have been getting several calls a day from a credit agency looking for $585 that he owes Sprint. They keep reminding me that Texas is a community property state and that I am also responsible for it. Yes. I know. Thank you!
I have been honest with the girls about everything since he left, and we all agree that the right thing to do (although that is a foreign concept to him) is to pay Sprint instead of spending money that we don't have for him to come home this coming weekend and force the girls to pretend that he is Father of the Year. They were very relieved that he agreed to postpone his visit until the following week. Now they can just send him a card in the mail. Can you imagine your father leaving you and coming for a visit two weeks later on Father's Day and expecting to have a fun Father's Day celebration? That's the fantasy world in which he is living. He really thinks he hasn't done much wrong and that everything is just fine.
It's going to be 100 degrees today. It's an early hot summer here in Dallas, Texas. But we are champions!!
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